Being a nail tech is an excellent career choice for a perfectionist. Attention to detail is arguably the single most important factor that separates an exceptional tech from an average one. But if you’re going to work every day with the goal of making money, you’ll need to balance perfectionism with the profitability of staying on schedule.
“A high level of achievement is healthy, but if it interferes with accomplishing tasks, it’s time to stop and take a look inward,” explains Ian Hembry, an education psychologist and researcher at MetaMetrics in Durham, N.C.
If you’re not sure if you qualify as a perfectionist, ask yourself a few questions. What is your motivation for success? What is your response to failure? Do goals motivate and excite you — or do you feel weighed down because you’re scared you won’t succeed? Do you stall when you have the opportunity to try something new because you’re waiting for the timing to be perfect? Do you feel dissatisfied when you succeed because you think you could have done even better? Do you beat yourself up over past mistakes?
Hembry says perfectionists recognize these common symptoms:
- Procrastination. Perfectionists may be slow to start a project because they fear not being able to finish it perfectly. This might prevent a salon owner from expanding to a larger location, adding staff, or even implementing new software.
- Extreme thinking. This is where there’s no gray area in terms of outcomes, and thinking is black and white. For example, fearing the loss of a client if you make a small mistake or if you have to say no.
- Control. Micromanaging your own and everyone else’s tasks, or overreacting to your own or others’ mistakes. This could show up in how you respond to coworkers or in how you react if a client no-shows or leaves the salon.
- Obsession. This might present as being preoccupied with having the newest and best tool in the industry or spending an extraordinary amount of time and energy worrying about the competition.
In the salon environment, perfectionism can show up in a variety of ways. Maybe you spend an excruciating amount of time prepping, filing, or polishing nails. Or maybe you come in on your day off because you don’t want to disappoint a client. Perfectionism could prompt you to appease difficult clients, or, conversely, cause you to react defensively when you think a client isn’t happy. It could be that in your quest for perfection, you set unrealistic standards for your staff and become too hard on them when those standards aren’t met.
While perfectionism may be easy to recognize, pinpointing the cause is difficult. “Most often, it’s a learned behavior,” says Hembry. It may be the result of being raised in an environment with very high expectations or even result from trauma, where a loss of control gives rise to perfectionism.
In adults, perfectionism usually manifests itself through hidden insecurities where a person’s self-worth is attached to another person’s praise or pleasure. For a nail tech, this could become a problem; a successful tech could easily have over 100 regular clients whose approval she seeks. Without understanding how to manage perfectionism, a tech could quickly become overwhelmed.
Managing the Perfectionist
“If perfectionism is interfering with your day-to-day happiness and productivity, seek out a medical professional,” says Hembry. He also recommends these self-management techniques:
- Pay attention to your thought patterns. Notice negative self-talk, especially when you make a mistake. Note when you can’t accept a compliment or when you hear yourself chanting the dreaded trifecta of “shoulda, woulda, coulda.” Slowing down to pay attention to your thoughts is extremely beneficial, says Hembry.
- Practice reframing your negative thinking and praise yourself for your positive attributes, such as being detail-oriented, organized, and determined.
- Meditate with a mantra. Start your day with liberating and affirming thoughts, then repeat them throughout the day and during times of stress. It’s OK to make mistakes. I don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to make everyone happy. I’m in charge of my response.
- Learn negative visualization. When we devote a small amount of time each day to visualizing possible mistakes, we will be better prepared should they actually occur. “The key to this approach is keeping it regimented,” says Hembry. “On my drive to work, I think of things that could go wrong and how I will handle them. But once I step out of the car, I won’t give those thoughts another minute of energy.”
- Improve time management. Analyze how much time you spend on each task. As a professional, you should see continued improvement in your efficiency and learn when “good” is good enough.
Learn to Let Go — a Little
Any seasoned tech knows compromising in the wrong place could mean broken nails, chipped polish, and dissatisfied clients. But with experience, it’s possible to move through the technical aspect of a nail service almost as though you’re on auto pilot. That doesn’t mean quality suffers. But it does mean you can complete an excellent job in less time because of your skill, experience, and expertise. Learn to trust yourself as a professional so you can relieve pressure in the following areas:
In the salon:
- Limit the number of freebies you’re giving to clients. You don’t need to have a dozen refreshments and snacks for them to enjoy. Instead, make your life easier by offering a few select choices.
- Limit your retail brands. You don’t need to compete with Amazon. Choose your favorite products from among your favorite brands and sell them well and often.
- Limit your service options. Know who you are and excel at your specialty. Better to perfect a few services than to struggle with self-doubt on services you aren’t passionate about.
- Practice saying no. You can be uncompromising in your customer service while still saying no to unrealistic demands. Examples include reapplying a full set when someone is scheduled for a fill, completing a full service when a person is prohibitively late, fixing nails or doing polish changes for free, etc.
- Stick to the schedule. Commit to taking a lunch break, days off, and vacations. You can’t be all things to all people. Make your health a priority.
- Accept the truth. When a client raves about you, enjoy it. When a client offers a suggestion, learn from it. Both types of feedback are opinions that neither increase nor detract from your self-worth. Appreciate the accolades and grow from the criticisms.
In your technique:
Let it be noted that there is no place in your technique where you can slack and it will be good enough. The technical part of your job is the place to embrace perfectionism. However, as a professional, you should be able to move past obsessing over your work. Technical ability should become second nature to you. If your perfectionism prevents you from trusting yourself, practice positive self-talk about your level of expertise. Allow yourself to accept that you’re an expert. Here are a few common places techs can learn to stop being compulsive about their technique:
- Prepping the nail plate. You can indulge your perfectionism during the prep phase because if the base isn’t perfect, you’ll have trouble with lifting. However, overprepping the nail can cause its own trouble, so discipline yourself to fix it and forget about it. Remove the dead cuticle from the nail plate and leave it alone. What sets you apart from the novice tech is your ability to efficiently complete the job in a shorter amount of time.
- Selecting tips. Trust the averages and accept that for the majority of people, the pointer and the ring finger take the same size tip. Once you measure one, you’re done with four. Move on.
- Polishing. Listen, the polish needs to be perfect. Clients often cite the quality of the paint job as the distinguishing factor when it comes to what they love about their nails. Once you’ve learned to polish beautifully, obsessing actually creates problems. Hyper focusing on polish could cause you to cover the same area twice, drag partially dried lacquer, or apply the polish too thick, resulting in clumps, mishaps, and extended drying times. This goes for gel-polish, too. Avoid polishing and re-polishing the surface of the nail. The magic of a beautiful paint job, whether it’s traditional or gel, is in its smooth, thin layers.
- Painting a French manicure. Use confident, sweeping strokes when you apply a French manicure. Using timid strokes and obsessing over minutiae means you’ll have more touch points at the tip. That could leave marks that need to be blended and result in a thick, clumpy line that will drive you — and the client — crazy.
In a way, perfectionism is an ironic condition. It’s not possible to be perfect, so the only thing this unrealistic standard accomplishes perfectly is failure. Relief begins by acknowledging you’ve set up an unachievable standard. Then, if recognition and reformatting your self-talk doesn’t help, search out a professional who can help.
Once you remove perfection as the standard, you’ll be able to set expectations you can achieve so you can better enjoy your life — and all the mistakes that come with it.
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